Showing posts with label writer. Show all posts
Showing posts with label writer. Show all posts
Saturday, January 18, 2020
James Patterson Writes in Pencil
For those that came in late...when I write, I write with a pencil. Always have. There is something about the lead of the pencil on the yellow of the legal pad paper that makes the writing seem... historical. It feels alive as I scribble it down.
As one of my goals for the year involve more published works, I began taking online lessons in Masterclass. Masterclass is a series of video tutorials given by experts in their field of expertise. One of the contributing authors is James Patterson. Patterson has multiple books that I have read (as a fan) where his protagonist (Alex Cross) is employed in an industry that I once was.
About the fourth lesson in, I was not enjoying the tutorial as much as I like. Though the format was similar to Stephen Kings "On Writing" book, I was not enjoying Patterson's class as much as I had enjoyed his book.
And then it happened.
James Patterson said that he writes in pencil on a legal pad.
James Patterson writes the same way I do...or more accurately, I write the same way as accomplished author James Patterson does.
And suddenly I was enjoying Patterson's class much more. I went back and started his Masterclass again, and although the links to a number of discussions with previous students is broken, the class became more poignant to me. It became more real as a one on one class because....James Patterson writes in pencil.
I am hopeful that one day a fan will have the same connection that I had when they relaize their favourite authors (that would be me) writes n pencil.
Friday, November 29, 2019
The Abduction of Sarah
It is
twelve years today since I last saw my youngest daughter, Sarah. At the time,
she was twelve years and thirteen days old. In a few weeks when Christmas arrives,
I will have not seen my Daughter for more than half of her life.
And what
atrocity occurred to warrant this segregation of Daughter and Father?
Her Mother
and I divorced.
Weeks
after our divorce, her Mother remarried, and later had a child with the other
man. Sarah became the “lost” child, as her Mother began to fabricate a life for
her new family. Apparently, unnoticed by her Mother, Sarah slipped into a life
of vice and crime, and like all divorced Fathers, I found out about it too late.
Upon learning of her situation, when I telephoned Sarah’s school principal, I was informed that Sarah was “a child at risk.”
I telephoned
her Mother and suggested that Sarah reside with me, where Sarah could be
monitored and have oversight while she corrected her ways and got on with her
schooling. Within seven days of that conversation, her Mother absconded with
our child, fled across three State lines, and took up residency in a
jurisdiction where I had no reach.
Had I
done those same actions, there would be Amber alerts, wall to wall television
coverage until the child was found, and then, I would have been swiftly
incarcerated. But, because it was her Mother that broke the same Federal and
State laws that I am bound to, there would be no repercussions, no enforcement
and no consequences.
Her
Mother would rather destroy the child, than co parent with me.
And I
would have to start over, again. Except this time, I would have to restart the documentation
to ensure access to our child with another country, another state, another
government and another school.
The
slippage of time would rob me of her 13th through 21st
birthdays. I would not know of her milestone events, her health, her academic
awards, or her graduation. There would be no Christmas or holidays together, and
my Father became collateral damage, unable to see his Grandchild. This would be
in addition, to whatever lies the child was told about me.
When
the telephone went unanswered at our scheduled calling time, her mail began to be
returned. Scrawled in her Mother’s handwriting on the envelopes and packages were the words “no longer at
this address”.
It
would be years before I could classify her Mother’s actions as “Parental
Alienation.” I’d always treated her
Mothers actions as nothing less than child abduction, albeit the discovery was
after the fact.
A
parent knows within minutes, sometimes hours, when their child is abducted. An alienated
parent doesn’t find out until much later.
The
parent of an abducted child has multiple law enforcement agencies chasing down
leads, investigating sightings and sharing information. An alienated parent has
to do their own leg work.
The
parent of an abducted child fears for their child’s life. An alienated parent fears
that the child will never recover their life.
The parent
of an abducted child knows that the longer it takes, the less likelihood the
child will be found. An alienated parent
usually starts at this point, as they learn of what has already occurred. They
are playing from behind the moment they discover that their child has been
“abducted”. For me, it was almost nine months before I uncovered that Sarah was
“a child at risk”. A perpetrator given nine
months head start knows that the authorities have little chance of catching
them.
It is
too late for my youngest daughter, Sarah. If She is still alive, She is now an
adult who chooses to have no contact with her Father. It is reasonable to
assume that Sarah was told lies by her Mother, which She accepted as truth, as I
was not physically present to refute them. My only hope is to wait until my
daughter questions one of those lies, and then seeks me out to verify. I pray
that Sarah has better critical thinking skills that Her Mother. Sarah’s Mother is also the daughter of an
alienated Father.
Before
we were married, her Mother and I were walking along the beach together when we
ran into her Father. In the weeks thereafter, Sarah’s Mother sought clarity
over the horror stories that Her Mother had told, and her Father refuted them. When
Sarah’s Mother independently verified her Father’s version, She learned that
Her Mother had manufactured the stories about her Father, in order to cover up immoral
sins. Sarah’s Mother choose not to repair the relationship with her Father, because
She could not accept that her Mother’s account of her Father’s absence in her
life, were all lies.
It is
twelve years today since I last saw my youngest daughter, Sarah. At the time
she was twelve years and thirteen days old. You can diminish the actions of her
Mother to “Parental Alienation” as much as you like, but as her Father, this is
the story of the abduction of my youngest daughter, Sarah.
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Saturday, September 14, 2019
A New Web Site is Coming
A new website is coming.
After many years, an upgrade of grantmadden.com is coming. The good people at Go Daddy have assisted me in a necessary upgrade and encryption, and the new web site will be rolled out shortly.
Just as soon as I learn slightly more coding.
Saturday, September 7, 2019
The Path to Citizenship - II
First contact has arrived from the Immigration Department.
February 2020.
Set your travel plans accordingly..
Sunday, August 18, 2019
When Is A Writer, Not Writing?
When is a writer, not writing?
When they're running around after other people?
When they are transporting patients who fail to follow their doctors orders? When they provide medication and instructions to patients, that ignore doctor's orders because it's an inconvenience for them - but they still require the care that they don't think they need?
When your parents are elderly and they start to revert to toddlers, unable to recall the conversation that they had that same morning with their health care provider about what they can and should not do when afflicted with an additional medical issue?
And then go about and do their own interpretation of the same advice, skipping medication in order to attend social events while afflicted with a transmittable - but non contagious, condition.
It's almost like knocking yourself out with a ball point hammer.
For a writer, it's material for when they come back to the art.
For a child, it's a glimpse of what the future may hold.
Saturday, August 3, 2019
When is a Writer, Writting?
When is a writer, writing?
When they're not publishing?
When they're not writing?
For several weeks - actually since March - I no longer reside at my desk. My writing is done on a television dinner tray, pen and paper. At the weekends, if I'm lucky, I transfer the writings over to laptop. It is a duplicate process, however, it is the only writing process that I have now.
I am writing in the car, in snippets of time.
Maybe one day I'll have a desk again, to write at.
Monday, July 22, 2019
...and we're back
...and we're back.
In the midst of the chaos and medicals, someone locked themselves out of their account.
I had to wait until I returned to California to get to the email address that I specifically use for lock outs.
Tuesday, July 9, 2019
In Memorium
The day could not pass without reflection.
This day will always be linked to another, which will haunt my horrors.
In Memorium, Mark Lawrence Goodwin, Constable of Police.
There, but for the stroke of a pen, go I.
Mark left behind two children, Megan and Alyse, ages 2 and 6 weeks.
Twenty five year later after that night, I would finally write of him.
I will hold copies of the book for his children, should they ever ask.
Sunday, June 30, 2019
I Write
I write.
I write about my children, about Parental Alienation, about the unfairness in the post divorce world towards Fathers. But until this week, I have never written about my ex wife.
Not so much of my ex wife, but more of her actions. The actions that she learned as a child from her mother, which she replicated to our children. Twenty two years after our divorce, I look at what my ex wife has done to our children, and see the similarities that her mother did to her.
The cycle has to stop.
And it does with me.
I write.
I write about my children, about Parental Alienation, about the unfairness in the post divorce world towards Fathers. But until this week, I have never written about my ex wife's parental alienation of our children.
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Saturday, June 22, 2019
All of Them
Some time ago, probably months, I had a Dear Old Friend write of their current relationship.
"They won't leave me."
The commentary hit home, because, they All leave me.
All, are the important women in my life.
Mother. Wife. Daughters. Girlfriend.
In my Dear Old Friend's relationship, their Partner wont be leaving them. Good for them. They deserve second (or third) opportunities.
For readers, I have been caring for my Mother in Law for several months. Another important woman in my life about to leave me. Once again, powerless to stop it.
My Dear Old Friends comment was right. Might not apply to me, but for them, it's good enough.
Saturday, June 8, 2019
Not The Other Way Round
There is nothing That I am enjoying, about caring for an elderly parent.
There is little that I am, personally, accomplishing, either writing, or any in other important facet of my life.
However, in despair, there suddenly appears a signal.
A discussion that was had several months ago, returned to me laying in bed earlier this week. A possible second major project, broken into three parts, covering three parts of the State of California.
I hate to propose any matter at this time, the time required for me to care for the elderly parent has to be fitted around the writing, not the other way round.
Sunday, May 26, 2019
Gratefully, Thank You
Memorial Day weekend in the United States is my favorite weekend of the year.
It's not the Monaco Grand Prix.
It's not the Indianapolis500.
It's not the Coke 600.
It's the sacrifice of those that served, who gave their all.
And for my father in law, who is battling, it may be his last to honor those that he served with.
For those that served, have served, and are serving, the people of the free world, gratefully, thank you.
Thursday, May 16, 2019
Happy Birthday Chickybabe
Happy birthday Chickybabe.
Today, my eldest daughter, turns 30.
When I was 30, I was already separated, on the cusp of divorce, with two daughters I cared for more than...well, more than my own relationships and career. I had already won two sailing titles and the third would come the following year, but it was the girls that were my greatest achievement.
I had also isolated one of my parents from my daughters when they were unable to follow through on the manner in which their mother and I had wanted the girls to be brought up. I would later isolate the other parent, my Father, however, he would see the error of his ways and that would be repaired.
As expected, my Father was a better man than me. I have been isolated from the girls and it has not been repaired.
I taught my daughters not to allow evil in to their lives, and to keep it at bay. I never envisaged that I would be the evil they keep at bay. But, unlike where I made my own choice, their choice has been influenced by their mother, and their grandmother. Two people whom were unable to follow through in the manner in which their mother and I wanted the girls to be brought up. Being a little over 7000 miles away and unable to counter any, and all, evils by these people, I was always playing from behind.
With no voice to counter them, the girls unknowingly succumbed to their evil.
It is too late for my girls.
The days are long and the years go by fast.
My eldest is 30 today. I have been out of her life more than I have been in it.
Happy birthday Chickybabe. I never left you.
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Sunday, April 28, 2019
The Menial
Some years ago, I read of Hollywood actresses that worked in dinners between films. Even one of my favorite actors, Bruce Willis had a job tending bar to support himself between Broadway productions.
It seems that greatness in the Arts originates from sustaining yourself in the menial.
For the past month, I have been holed up tending to a parent. My accommodation is a bed, cupboard, TV dinner table which doubles as my writing "desk". With no distractions, I have written more in the past month, than several months prior. I've also been supporting myself in the menial, running two households in absentee.
Perhaps these are the challenges I face to take the writing to the next level. Much like a game of Dungeons and Dragons, I have to continue to gain experience in order to level up.
It would have been nice to have a preformatted writer life, but then, I would have missed out on the menial.
Sunday, April 21, 2019
Easter Sunday Parental Alienation
It is the early hours of Easter Sunday morning. The sun has just risen, the light is still soft across the county, and I am working on a feature article dealing with Parental Alienation.
While not a "holiday" in the United States, Easter is till celebrated as a time of families coming together. Some Fathers will not see their children, not through choice, but through the circumstances dictated to them by others - mostly the narcissist mother.
The irony of Parental Alienation is that the Father was good enough to be there, through the birth, through the years, and it is only because of the divorce or separation that they "suddenly" become unfit, subject to courts and ridicule. Most will assume Father roles in other families where there is no issue - there only ever seems to be an issue perpetrated by the mother of his children.
Much like I did with my own parents marriage, eventually, the child will discover that not all events as told by their alienating parent are true, complete, or concise.
By which time, both the child and the alienated parent have already lost.
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Friday, April 12, 2019
The Sandwich Generation Life
It has been a rough three weeks.
For those that came in late - I have been dealing with the demise of a parent. Lots of doctors appointments and hospital visits. Not a lot of time for writing.
Actually, not a lot a time for personal development, productiveness or sleep.
Once quoted as the "sandwich generation", now that I have finished caring for my own children, I am now caring for the aged parents in my life. This is new. Not a preplanned activity that I envisaged, not an act that either of my parents engaged in - as best I recall. (I'm sure that somebody will come out of the woodwork about this and claim that relative X was cared for by relative Y; but as a I said, not an activity that either of my parents engaged in.)
And I hope, not an activity that any of my children have to engage in with me.
Caring for the aged parent in close proximity has you looking at your situation and what you would like your children to do. I do not want to be in a box. Nor do I want my children to take time from their lives to care for an ailing me.
They will not have to. I will see that they don't.
Monday, April 1, 2019
Porta Potty Notice at San Diego Airport
Feature story at the San Diego Reader.
I imagine that the silence from the San Diego Airport Authority is because they got caught with their pants down...and the portable toilet door open.
Saturday, February 16, 2019
To Get The Message
Another Saturday night at home.
Again.
My eye is sore. My foot is bleeding from a fall. My glasses are bent.
Life is (almost) good.
These are the challenges that age brings to writers.
Some people learn the first time. Others, need to loose everything two...maybe three times, to get the message.
Saturday, February 9, 2019
Goodnight, Google Plus
In the world of healing, the eye issue I commenced the year with is progressing, slowly.
In other news, Google and their Google Plus platform is going away. Not such a big deal for me, however, it now requires another review of every web post made as the Google + option is put to bed.
For others, the closure on 2 April 2019 means that their social media platforms now moves across to the others. I use Facebook anda little Twitter - but not enough to link to at this stage.
Goodnight Google Plus.
Tuesday, January 15, 2019
Eye Will See You
Friends, Family and Followers,
The last 45 stitches have been removed and the results are:
- I get to keep my eye sight.
- I do not need reconstructive surgery.
A legacy of the Australian lifestyle, I am grateful to Suzi for vigilance of "the small dot" on my face, and to daughter Jillian, who while I was away at dad's, was the voice of reason to her mother when the prognosis came.
For the Limelifers, starting One Drop Wonder means "eye will see you" in Denver
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