Eighteen Years - Gone

 

 

 

Eighteen years.

Gone.

It has been a lifetime since I saw my children - eighteen years today since I both saw them together. I was lucky enough - if you can call it that - to see the eldest child once more after that event. 

I may not recognize either child if I saw them in the street.

A counterpart - in Michigan, has just completed 3000 days without seeing his children. The actions taken by the mother of his children are similar to those I experienced - who teaches these women these similarities?

Their mothers of course.

Shame on me though - the red flags were there before we had children, before we were married.

I thought I was strong enough to break this generational curse. I was wrong. If I had to guess I would say that my youngest has followed the same path - and we're now another generation along.

I hope that eighteen years don't vanish for either for my daughters.

It Is Done

 Two years of research

Hundreds of emails.

Over fifety interviews of collaboration. 

Months of writing.

It is done.

 
 

LA Voyage magazine

Made the Los Angeles Voyage magazine.

With thanks to "Chip" - another first fan, who suggested they talk to me.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 #grateful 

 

 

This Is Japan

 

 

 

 

 

 

This is Japan.

 

The Answer...Gets a World Debut

 

In September last year, I had a blog entry titled "why am I not writing?"

 

I spoke of the professional work I am doing.

 

That professional work gets to debut next month at the World Association for Disaster and Emergency Medicine.

 

 

 

It's Been Too Long

 2025 and the new year has begun.

I recieved a telephone call about ten days ago which may require consideration to return to Austraia, my birth country. News has arrived that while it makes no difference to me, may make a difference to others in my family.

But before I leave, I have to take care of my own business here. 

For years when a family event occurred my father has been outspoken about me not returning. 

"It's too far."

"It's too expensive."

"It takes too long."

With the family now split, it's more a case of "It's been too long."

17 Years

 To those that celebrate, happy thanksgiving.

In Minnesota, @analienatedfather posted in his blog about the alienation of his children. Michael is going on eleven years without seeing his children. 💔

Today, is 17 years since I last saw my youngest daughter. 💔

I have no idea where she is now, I have no idea who she is now.

I hope the life she has is as she wanted.

I stil live at the same address and phone number I have for the last twenty years, in the hope that one day both my daughters will reach out. As was done to their mother, has now been done to them.

Michael and I have nothing to give thanks for over our children, as we wait, for one day that they open that door.